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Camp Boredom

May 13th, 2011
Common Roots Cafe
Minneapolis

If you read my previous post, you would have learned of my desperation and lack of inspiration last week.  I went home that day and cried to Paul, “I am a writer with no readers!”  Well, the few of you who do read my writing can someday say, “I used to read her writing before she became a Writer,” capital “W” meaning I make a sustainable living from my writing.  For now, I’ll continue to write because I can’t help it, because I love it, because God gave me this desire I can’t shake, and because (from a quote I read on the wall in my class at South this morning):

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up.  The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” -Thomas A. Edison

I’m not giving up.

But that’s not what I was going to write about anyway.

My pal Tony gave me a gift for my birthday that, for all I’m concerned, is worth a thousand dollars because it gave me the juice, that inspiration, I was so lacking.  It’s one of those books that make me, as a writer, realize that it’s ok if I don’t write like Gabriel Garcia Marquez, that it’s ok if I just write like me.  There is a place for us stream-of-conscious writers that like to talk about the ordinary, because we know the secret (all that is extraordinary lies in the ordinary.  Shhhhhh.  Don’t tell anybody.  This is just a secret for you, my select few readers).

The book is called, “Where did you go?” “Out” “What did you do?” “Nothing.” It was published in 1957, and yet, its sentiment echoes throughout today’s parenting culture.  The book is a memoir of the author’s childhood memories juxtaposed with the childhood culture of his children.  Again, this is 1957.  He writes:

It is summer, and there are the long evenings under the street lamps to talk to girls, to watch the big kids talking to girls, to tease the big kids talking to girls, to be hit by the big kids talking to girls, to play Red Rover…It is summer and it is time to get a jelly glass and fill it full of lightening bugs and tie a piece of gauze over the top and take it to your room, and very late at night to see that you finger, where you touched the lightning bug, is glowing too.  But not in our town.  The kids are at camp, because, for Heaven’s sake, what are the kids going to do with themselves all summer?  Well, it would be nice, I think, if they spent an afternoon kicking a can.  It might be a good thing if they dug a hole.  No, no, no.  Not a foundation, or a well, or a mother symbol.  Just a hole.  For no reason.

I’ve been thinking about this very thing lately, during this time of sign-ups for summer activities for the kids.  In this great city, there are roughly one billion enriching and awesome things for kids to do, and instead of feelings expansive while I’m activity shopping, I feel like I’m choking.  Too many options–Dancing Dinos theater camp, T-ball, artsy-fartsy, golf, tennis, soccer, swimming lessons, and Camp This or That–all sound so fun and good.

Yet.

All of these great options clash against what I know, deep down, and which is so oddly difficult to implement–Camp Boredom.

Our beautiful children need to be bored, for it is within boredom that we become inventive.  Creativity is not exercised or possible under adult-led enrichment.  The riches of childhood lie along the banks of creeks, in the sound of frogs in a pond, in a Dixie cup of tadpoles.  The music of childhood is in the breeze through the trees, in that long, high buzz of the invisible beetle, in the rambling pretend dialogue between a dirty plastic dinosaur and a doll whose hair has recently been chopped off by the kitchen scissors that our kids aren’t supposed to play with.  The magic of childhood can be found by pushing over a log to find “roly poly bugs” and centipedes and worms.

I think part of the problem is that in our current culture, spaces of time are something that need to be filled.  We are so used to constantly be doing something that we have forgotten how to simply be.  To lay on the grass and stare up at the shape-shifting clouds and find an animal.  Or to sit down in the middle of a mess in the living room and read the damn paper and drink a cup of tea.

And we are unwittingly handing this problem to our kids, along with their packed lunches, as we drop them off at their next organized activity.  It’s not that organized activities are bad.  It’s just that they are squeezing out that most important activity for children–unstructured play.  Idling, moodling, inventive, creative, meditative play.  The landscape of their imaginations is so vast, so rich and full, but we no longer trust it.  Is it because we, ourselves, don’t know what to do with downtime, so we assume our children don’t?  Or are we teaching them the madness that has become our lives, where we rush off, across town, to get to our mediation classes so we can feel justified to sit down and do nothing.  But even then, most of the time we are just concerned we aren’t even doing that right.  We ask our gurus, “So, do I just sit and breath?  What happens if a thought enters my mind?

“Children have a knack for simply living that adults can never regain.”
Christina Schwarz, The Atlantic, April 2011

I’ve resisted signing up for Dancing Dinos, T-ball, and soccer (two nights a week for an almost-first grader seems like overkill) even though they sound really fun.  Sometimes I suck in my breath thinking about the vast amount of time we will have for them to ask me if they can please, please, please watch PBS or play lego dot com, to field their cries of, “What can we do Mama?  We’re so bored?!” as if it is an affliction.

During those times, I will invite them to Camp Boredom, where they will eventually give up asking me about TV, sulk out the back door, and swing on the swingset out back until their toes touch the branches high up in the tree; where they will see two butterflies dancing and remember the milkweed plant in the front yard and go pick off a leaf; where they will find themselves an hour later sitting by an anthill and poking a stick in the little hole at the top to see if the ants crawl aboard.

Sounds like the perfect summer camp to me.  And it’s free.

  1. Thank you, that was lovely. I look forward to our summer of Camp Boredom and Mountain Bike races:)

    Love you

  2. YES YES YES!!!!! Boredom serves as the seeds for creativity, deep reflection, and curiosity. I will print this and give it to my friends who all struggle to fight this overscheduling trend because in our hearts we know that the greatest gift we can give our kids is simplicity. Bravo dear friend…

  3. Just what I need to hear. Thank You for the kind and thoughtful reminder to slow down. I’ll need to read this again, from time to time, I’m afraid.

    stacy

  4. My friend found you out online, forwarded me your website…and I know I just met you, but I love your writing already!!! Thank you for the simple view from your porch. Yes, I remember the days of doing just these activities, brought on by boredom…and oh how I miss them. Crazy, isn’t it? how we aspire to do…and forget how blissful the ‘just’ being is. I love your rendition of the meditation class…I laughed sooooo hard, and found it to be common in many areas of this messed up ‘adult life’. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! KEEP up your Writing…you are already there! I too will be sharing with all of my adult friends that still have a child inside, waiting to be let out!
    Sheri

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